Confused and Loosing hope

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Family Care:
Ano ang Kahulugan ng Buhay?

Question: Arjay (South Korea) March 25, 2009

Ano po ba ang kahulugan ng buhay? Sa ngayn po prang nwwlang po ako ng pag-asa sa buhay bkt po kaya? Sa totoo lng po gusto ko na po sana umuwi pero wala pa po akong ipon pra mkpgsimula. Eh,bakit po kaya ganun ang nasa isip ko. Naguguluhan po ako.
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Answer:

Dear Arjay,

When you ask the question, "ano ang kahulugang ng buhay?", siguro ang gusto mong itanong ay, "ano ang kahulugan ng aking buhay ngayon?" You appear confused and helpless. You want to come home but you can't because you have not saved enough to make a fresh start. Sa kalagayan mong ito, parang napipilitan kang ipatuloy ang pamumuhay na hindi mo na gusto o hindi mo na kaya. Mahirap itong kalagayan mong ito, Arjay.

First of all you need to guard yourself against falling into depression. Here are some things you should do:
1)Make daily schedules and follow them closely.

2) Try to exercise regularly as exercising causes the body to release endorphins, brain chemicals that help make a person feel more peaceful and happy and also can help some people cope with mild depression and or low self esteem.

3) Talk to someone, your pastor, a counselor or a trusted friend.

4) Take part in community activities, maybe in the church.

5) See a doctor or psychiatrist who can prescribe an anti-depressant.

Secondly, siguro ang kailangan mo ay gumawa ng plano.
1) Give yourself a time frame i.e. how much longer you need to stay in Korea in order to earn enough money to come home. You need to do this because it is always easier to overcome challenges when you know exactly when it will end.

2) Second, kailangan din gumawa ng paraan na makapag-ipon. You need to budget expenses etc. so that you can meet the time frame for coming home that you have set for yourself. Save Now.

3) Finally, there is a saying, "life is what you make it". Isipin mo rin ito, Arjay, sapagka't ikaw lamang ang makakapag-paganda ng buhay mo. Don't make the circumstance you find yourself in rule your life, take control of your life. In the face of trials and adversity, looking at the positive side of things and trying to make the most of the situation you find yourself in may help you weather adversities that you face and in long run help you to find more meaning in your life.

Salamat sa iyong tanong,
Regina Diaz Goon
Psychologist
For service@OFWParaSaPamilya.com

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Follow-Up Note from Arjay: (April 8, 2009)

Dear Dra. Regina Diaz Goon,

Tama po ang lahat ng sinabi ninyo doktora. Gustong gusto ko npong sanang umuwi pro di ko magawa dahil sa konti plang po ang ang ipon, Sa ngayn po dra. 1 year 8 months npo ako s korea, Ang plano ko po sa ngayon ang pinakmatagal n pagsstay ko dto sa korea ay till feb. 2010, Dito po s korea maari po kami mgwork for a period of 5 years. Sana nga po kynin ng akin katawan at isipin hanggang sa dumating ang panahon na iyon pero incase po n talagang di ko npo makaya baka sa sept. 2009 uwi npo ako.

Lagi ko na nga lang po dinadaan sa dasal eh, lagi ko po SIYA kinakausap pra gabayan ako s lahat ng akin magiging desisyon. Sa totoo lng po nahihirapan po tlga ako s trabaho ko tapos masama pa ang ugali ng mga koreano n kasama namin minsan nga po nananakit pa sila eh. Pinagtitiyagaan ko lng po talaga para sa akin pamilya sa Pinas. Meron nga pong mga araw na parang ayaw bumangon sa akin katawan sa higaan dahil sa sobrang sakit at pagod. Minsan din po gusto ko na din patulang yun mga koreano dito dahil s sama ng ugali nila pero kapag naiisip ko ang aking pamilya di ko magawa na sila ay patulang. Meron din pong mga oras na kapag di ko na kaya ang lungkot at hirap inilalabas ko na lang po ito sa pamamagitan ng pag-iyak habang kinakausap ko si LORD.

Maraming salamat po doktora sa inyo oras, sanay marami pa kayong mapayuhan at matulungan katulad namin. More power and GOD BLESS !!!!!!!

Lubos na Gumagalang,
Arjay
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